Time: How to find more of it in your day
Find what fills your cup.
That’s what they say, right?
But in reality, it feels like your cup is already overflowing.
Maybe overflowing SO much that it’s filled multiple cups
They’re all spilling over, melting together, and you can't even see the difference anymore
How in the world can you fill something that is already filled to the brim?
You subtract.
You put less in.
You evaluate what’s being put in
Stop overfilling your cup and drowning yourself. It’s the only way you’re going to find space for yourself
Finding time
If I challenged you to find thirty minutes in your day, I bet you might say it’s impossible.
It’s, positively, impossible.
But hey, wait, remember two posts ago when we talked about mindset?
Let’s see if we can talk this through.
We only have so much time in the day. This is fixed.
We’re not Beyonce - so let’s leave that metaphor in the past, okay?
BUT…we CAN choose to make changes.
With changes, comes the ability to find the time.
With awareness, comes the realization that we can make time.
With a taste of time for ourselves, we start to see the little opportunities that seemed impossible before.
Edit your time
Every time you say yes to something, you say no to time and space for yourself.
Every time you say no to your dream, you’re telling yourself it’s not a priority.
Every club you sign up for, every obligation you say yes to, every favor you give, is taking time from your days.
Every yes is a no to something else.
Saying no is going to be your superpower.
Here’s the thing: You can say No in a respectful way. It will feel uncomfortable the first few times
But once it settles in…once you accept that you’re saying no for YOURSELF and no one else, it’s going to feel so good.
Are you doing things because you want to or because you think you HAVE to? Because you don’t want to let someone down?
Practice pausing before saying yes. You might be surprised what you learn.
Block Time/Plan ahead
On a “perfect” Sunday I meal prep for the week.
Once a month I take a day to batch tasks for my business
Once a month I take a do a Life Admin day to catch up on all the things I’ve procrastinated
There won’t be time in every day.
Planning ahead for a day or half day or even an hour that you can have to yourself will go far.
You’ll know you have time to complete things and wont be worried about “when the things will get done” or “how it will all be possible”
Put it on the calendar. Get a babysitter. Make it happen.
The more you batch, the less these things will nag your mind day in and day out.
Stop scrolling, stop binging, stop numbing
I posts blogs bi-weekly on Mondays. Except today is Wednesday.
Because I gave in to the addicting social media monster.
I scrolled the evenings away instead of chasing my dream.
And for what? To feel jealous or guilty? To get yet another headache from staring at the screen for too long?
This one is tough, but so often we go to numbing behaviors to soothe a long day, a hard day, a hard season.
In the end, this won’t help. It’s simply a mask. A temporary band aid that only allows the true feelings to fester.
So what can you do? Set timers. Practice mindfulness (which I’ve been learning has tremendous effects on your ability to focus and self awareness). Put the phone in another room for goodness sake.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Moms are stuck in a complex spot.
Society has taught us that women are the primary caregiver and that it is expected for them to be the one who provides the most
Moms are emotional; by nature, we nurture those around us and give and give without return
Let’s not confuse this with isolation.
There’s still a human behind those tired eyes. One that has dreams and hopes and a view of the world beyond this little person
With no detriment to our family, we shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help.
To say - I need a minute, an hour, a day - to myself. I need to find myself again. Let’s drop the shame of asking for this and make it a norm
If you’ve read to this point, I bet your mind is spinning with new ideas about how to find more time in your day. I’d love to connect and hear what boundaries you are setting and how they’re creating more space in your days.
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